Catalog shopping

[letter to Beth & Rob]
Thanks so much for the faxes showing the catalog pages with items the boys would like. I have ordered the Backyard Football computer game for Dan and the Pokemon books for Jon. … Having them select items from a catalog certainly makes this grandma’s life a lot easier.

I went to Toys R Us one day last week to get 2-3 things for them that I could send in time for Hanukkah. (They are en route.) I came out of the store amazed that I hadn’t had a nervous breakdown inside. Later that day
a friend at the minyan told me that you can shop T-R-U on line. You type in the age of the child, his/her interests and how much you want to spend, and then get a short catalog of possibilities. That is definitely a thought to tuck away for future reference.

Bernice, Seymour, and granddhildren – summer 1999

Awesome brain power

During visit in San Francisco
The boys are awesome in brain power. Dan seems to be able to talk about anything and to read anything. Jon has cheer-leader qualities to match Amit’s. He’s enthusiastic about most everything! It’s great to see them and to note how they are developing so well. At the same time, a bit disconcerting that they are growing up so fast and not in our sight nearly enough.

Grandma’s Story

From: BSalt < BSalt@aol.com >
Date: March 6, 1998
Subject: Grandma’s Story – Roots For Doron

Dear Doron:

This will be more than you need or even want to know, but you can use what is most interesting to you. It gave me the chance to remember some things I haven’t thought about for a long time.

My story is a bit different from Grandpa’s. My grandparents were the same ages as Grandpa’s parents, probably because Grandpa was the youngest child in his family and I was the oldest child in my family.

My grandparents were George and Annie (Norvick) Meyer and Sam and Lena (Hauft) Radman. All of them came to America in the 1890’s when they were 8-10 years old. George came from a shtetl near Pinsk. Annie came from the city of Kiev. Sam also came from Kiev and Lena came from Kharkov. All these places are in Russia. Each couple met in America and chose each other to marry.

George came with his father and two older brothers. His father’s name was Ephraim Meir Bokelchuk which got changed to Frank Meyer. They settled in Baltimore. His father and mother were divorced. George’s name was Hershel Zvi. He chose the name George because he thought it sounded very American. Annie came with her parents. She had a sister and three brothers. As a young child in America she worked in a clothing factory pulling out basting threads. She never went to school. This family also settled in Baltimore. George was a milk wagon driver and met Annie when he delivered milk to her home. They married on March 5, 1903. George was 18 and Annie was 20. Their first child was Leonard (my father) born in Baltimore on Dec. 3, 1903. In 1908 they moved to Richmond Virginia. They had three more sons and one daughter. In Richmond George operated a grocery store. He became a butcher and went into the meat business, buying big sides of beef, cutting them up and selling smaller pieces to grocery stores. All his sons eventually helped him in this business. George died in 1926 at age 49 from cancer. Leonard became the “Boss” of the business. One remarkable thing about George is that he taught himself to read and write through “correspondence” courses and had a very beautiful handwriting. A year before he died his arm had to be amputated because of the cancer. How very sad and painful this must have been for him. When he died the children were 15, 17, 19, 21 and 23.

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Taking care of grandkids

We had a successful stint taking care of Daniel and Jonathan while Rob and Beth were in White Plains and Manhattan. … We played card games, watched videos and gave baths. The slept well, ate well and never whimpered or whined. As soon as Rob and Beth arrived back at 7 p.m. Sunday, they turned on the rotten behavior! We had a hard time convincing Rob and Beth that we had enjoyed the kids immensely.

Progress and personalities

[After trip to Israel]
I’m thrilled with the progress and personalities of our grandchildren, including Amit! I’m not upset with her treatment and know it’ll pass. She’s too precious, precocious and beautiful to reject in any way. As for Doron and Smadar. I wouldn’t change a hair on their heads!

Bernice with Smadar, Amit and Doron – 1995

Grandkids flying home

We just arrived back home from delivering the children [Doron and Smadar] to JFK.

… I can say that these three weeks were among the hardest and most wonderful we’ve had in many years! The children are great and impressed everyone who met them.

… I’m too tired to recapture more right now. I only want you to know that we love these little guys with all our hearts and feel we really got to know them. The wait for them communicate in English was long but the reward these three weeks was great!

Chicken pox

Rob reported this afternoon that Daniel has chicken pox! He missed all of the past week of school. He goes Mon, Tues and Thurs to a Montessori group in the next town. Frugal Rob said, “there goes the tuition!” I said to send him back next week. He’s probably not contagious any more and besides, he caught the pox there!

Daniel at 10 months

[After trip to San Francisco]
Daniel is wonderful, and very much like Doron on his first trip to America (10 months): happy, responsive, playful, pulling up to standing position, waving, making a variety of sounds and noises, and obviously processing all kinds of information through his little brain. He even moves his hands and arms out to the sides in excited anticipation of food! The technique for keeping him quiet in restaurants is to spread a path of cheerios across the hi-chair tray. He spears them one at a time with his forefinger and gums them to melting. Add a bottle of fruit juice and he’s good for about a half hour. He charmed a lot of people during the three meals we ate out with him.

Bernice and Daniel

Halloween costumes

Today it dawned on me that this is Halloween month and the stores must be full of costumes. I went to Caldor’s and sure enough, a wonderful selection. For Doron I found a Ninja Turtle costume and a Waldo costume. For Smadar: Sabrina The Sorceress (purple) and Raggedy Ann. (How’s that for contrast?) Even found something for Amit!

Newborn Smadar

[Two weeks after Smadar’s birth]
Finally today the video tape was delivered, in the latest snow storm, about 11:30 a.m. I went immediately to the VCR. I watched the last half hour first, when Smadar comes on the scene, and was utterly impressed with our wide-eyed beauty. Four and five days old and her eyes were so big, she was so awake, even already trying to get her fingers in her mouth.

Then I went back to the beginning and believe me there wasn’t a boring minute on it. I look forward to watching it several more times. Doron’s development is so phenomenal. I found myself smiling through the whole hour and half at his antics. … His reaction to Smadar brought a lump to my throat. he was so sweet, so tender with his touches and his kisses. I have to conclude that even when Doron is grouchy he is fun to have around. The way his face lights up when Yuval appears is wondrous. I hope Grandma and Grandpa get beams half as bright while we are visiting.

Newborn Smadar

Doron gotta wiggle

Thanks a million for the video tape. Now that Doron is so active and busy, the element of boredom has evaporated. I’ve watched it 4 times. I absolutely flip at the expression on his face when the tape starts playing “you gotta wiggle when the spirit says wiggle etc.”

You gotta shake when the spirit says shake

Little fingerprints

[After Lisa and Doron visited USA]
I’ve returned most of the house to its pre-Doron status, but haven’t yet washed off his little fingerprints on windows and mirrors. They are a nice reminder of your visit, at the same time a reminder of how much we miss you both!